Think of what I am offering here as an approach and think about how you can cultivate this approach in your self and and how you interact with your your ex.
Over the years I have worked with some incredible men; men who are divorced or separated from a partner and having to manage co-parenting with someone who can be quite uncooperative.
Remember, you are co-parents forever and I realize that this can be very difficult at times but there are a few things that can help orient you in a better way.
1) Take care of yourself! Many single fathers believe that they must sacrifice in order to parent and that is only somewhat true. Investing time into your kids is not just about them, but it is also about you and what you get out of those relationships.
What I am really referring to here is that some dads tend to forsake basic self care and then run on fumes or worse, run on empty. This just breeds frustration and resentment and makes navigating and...
I was running away from home. I had had enough! I was tired of the constant rules about putting things away and cleaning up my room. I just couldn’t stand it anymore.
I should say that I was only 6 years old at the time. I had a Styrofoam barrel filled with pennies. That would be enough money, I thought to myself. As I began to pack my belongings, my mother came into my bedroom.
She sat quietly and gently asked where I was going? I told her proudly, “I am running away.” “Where will you go?" she asked quietly? I had not thought that far in advance. “I don’t know,” I said. “Would you like me to help you pack?” she asked ever so gently. “OK,” I said.
As she helped me pack, she said, “I’m going to miss you!” I was stunned. How could I leave when I would be missed? I looked at my little suitcase, my Styrofoam barrel filled with pennies and my stuffed dog (I was not going to run away alone)....