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Who are you?

Our mediated curated self.  Have you noticed how much effort some people make in their social media lives?  Social media seems like a lot of pictures of hot bodies, great food, fantastic friends and amazing experiences, etc. - all a presentation of self or, more accurately, a presentation of a self-image. 

An image is not who we really are, what we really experience, what we really think and what we really feel.  It actually seems to create more distance from our most intimate experiential SELF.  This is basically the practice of the objectification of self (and consequently others).  Objectification, as a process, tends to dehumanize.  Now, I am not suggesting the banning of social media and participation in it.  What I am suggesting is spending some time with your actual self experiencing and giving some space to re-humanize!

Eric G. Schneider (c) 2019

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Dating and relationship advice from friends…

Very often, clients will share with me their challenges with dating and/or relationships.  They are often frustrated, discouraged, disappointed or even disillusioned.  They seek some relief from their suffering.  This all makes sense, but they will often reach out to friends for this relief as well.  They seek support, answers, opinions, suggestions and strategies and they may even get them, but they often add to the suffering by making things more complicated; more thoughts to think, more things to consider, more internal conflict to try and deal with.  The desire for the relief of discomfort is very understandable and makes perfect sense, but deep down this method rarely works because it does not go to the heart of the matter; the sometimes never-ending search for complete security. 

Eric G. Schneider (c) 2019

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