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Help For You & Your Relationships

No Nonsense/No Games/No B.S.

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Up to you.

Welcome

Let me start with a little warning.

Why start with a warning?

It's a good question.  The reason is because I am personally and professionally, sick and tired of all the marketing, sales and misleading crap out there when it comes to relationships.

Many claim expert status, make promises that they can't keep, create false equivalencies, and sometimes even create problems that they sell solutions for.   That's why...

  • You WILL NOT find an inspiring personal transformational narrative here.
  • You WILL NOT find any euphemisms or hyperbole here.
  • You WILL NOT find some number of steps in order to achieve some amazing and yet unrealistic goal here.
  • You WILL NOT FIND any  amazing promises
  • You WILL NOT find any attempts to try and push emotional hot buttons, pain points or egoic rub downs here.

It is very important to me to be as honest and as transparent as possible.

My philosophy is simple

  1. Be careful not to create the patients that you see. In other words, many helpers are filled with so many biases that they actually UNCONSCIOUSLY create issues for you to work on…endlessly!
  2. Indulging, coddling or colluding with defenses is at the expense of a person’s development and growth.
  3. That whatever is “wrong” with you can be “fixed” by what is right with you

This perspective is based decades studying the varieties of theories, methods and techniques of some of the most celebrated masters of our time.

Please note, I am NOT married to any of them!  

Why?

Because there is not a ONE size fits all model that works or is helpful ALL the time.

While there may be some similarities out there, each person and relationship is different and unique.  Therefore the work must be adapted and tailored to you.

The other aspect of my work is that it is BRIEF, sometimes only a single session. 

If you want more, that's up to you.

Yes, it's a shitty business model...

 but I'm a psychotherapist, not a salesman.

Oh and by the way...I do not do FREE  "discovery call" (which is actually just a sales call in disguise).

But wait, can’t we chat a bit first before I make a commitment?

While I appreciate your desire for that and know that it can be hard to reach out for help, it puts me in the position of investing time and energy in you before you do. 

I won't do that.  My time and energy is just as valuable as yours and often I think it best to model that in my own life and work.

Yes, you are taking a risk for sure.  I will not deny that, but it is an educated risk.

This is an investment of time, energy and money in YOURSELF.

And here is an important REALITY:

Just because I have spent the last 30 years working with and helping thousands of individuals and couples DOES NOT MEAN I will actually be able help you.

That would be a ridiculous and unrealistic positive prediction.  This is what marketing calls "social proof" but its really just a false equivalency and not really proof that I can help you.  It just means i was able to be helpful to someone else.

SERIOUSLY...

  • Can a teacher guarantee you will learn?
  • Can a doctor guarantee you will get well?
  • Can a lawyer guarantee that you will win a case?

Of course not.

YOU ARE AN ADULT and I will always treat you as such.

Unfortunately too many “helping” professionals unintentionally (and sometimes even intentionally) follow an implicit philosophy; “if you are not part of the solution, then there is A LOT of money to be made in prolonging the problem."

I have NO interest in prolonging or creating problems for you to waste time, energy and money on.

For some, this is very off putting.  I know that. It has not been easy for me to take this kind of a stand.

But at the end of the day, I want to feel good about the work that I am doing and know that I am giving my very best. 

I might not be for you.  That's ok.

Fortunately (or unfortunately, depending on how you look at it)  there is a plethora of so-called, well meaning, experts, gurus, teachers, coaches and therapists out there willing to sell you their services

I wish you luck in your search.

That said, if you are still reading then here are some of the issues that I work with.

  • Chronic conflict/arguing, fighting and toxicity in your relationship.
  • Anger issues
  • Coldness, disconnect (lack of intimacy)
  • Disappointment, discouragement and despair about your sex life and/or your relationship
  • Affairs and various forms of infidelity
  • Historic issues that get activated and burden your relationship, creating MORE problems for you and your partner(s).
  • Dating challenges
  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Expanding your sexual menu
  • Sexual guilt and shame
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Substance abuse/miss use
  • Kink & Poly friendly

 

Working Together

Individual Sessions for you or you and your partner

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Online programs and offerings

Coming soon!

Meet Eric

Sex & Relationship Counselor, Coach, and Educator

Eric Schneider has been working with individuals, couples, and those in various other relationship structures for over 30 years. He is a kink and poly friendly therapist. 

Eric believes, as a therapist, his role is not just to help you FEEL better about your situation/predicament, but to actually help you DO and BE better!

When working with Eric, you can expect a direct and challenging experience designed to help you become aware of EXACTLY where you are NOW so that you can figure out the next steps to take to effectively address whatever life situation you are facing.

Eric is a licensed Mental Health Counselor and is currently a Ph.D. candidate in Human Sexuality. He is a practitioner of martial arts, a musician, and lives in New York City with his partner, dog, and bird. 

To find out more about Eric and his work,  click here.

If you are ready to roll up your proverbial sleeves and get to work, than I am too!

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