My hope is that you will take a few moments to get to know a little bit about me and my work and see if it resonates with you.
For a long time, philosophers, sociologists, psychologists and various other experts have tried to offer wisdom about relationships. Especially the intimate kind.
It seems that relationships are not only one of the most significant areas of our lives, but also one that has inherently many challenges.
I too have spent decades; clinically, academically and personally focused on this particular area of our lives and have found some prescriptive means to help people with one basic difference from many this field, and that is, all relationship work is self work.
"I can do nothing for you but work on myself...you can do nothing for me but work on yourself."
- Ram Dass
I can remember hearing those words and thinking, "Yes, that's right... But what exactly is that work?"
It has taken me a long time to actually discern what that work actually is and to create and incorporate methods and means that support, facilitate and encourage that work to take place.
"The quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our relationships."
- Esther Perel, Author of Mating In Captivity and The State of Affairs
I totally agree, but with one caveat: the quality of your relationships is determined by the quality of the relationship you have with yourself. All relationship therapy, counseling, coaching and education is ultimately couple's work for one. And that is you.
Aside from the couple's therapy, which I offer to those who would like that kind of focus and attention, there are 3 specific prescriptive practices that I have found to be the most impactful on peoples relational lives, as well as my own.
These practices help you do, that which Ram Dass refers to as "work."
Eric Schneider has been working with individuals, couples, and those in various other relationship structures for over 30 years. He is a kink and poly friendly therapist.
Eric believes, in the words of Maya Angelou, "Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better."
Eric has come to believe that too much of therapy is about feeling better alone.
When working with Eric, you can expect a direct and challenging experience designed to help you become aware of exactly where you are now so you can figure out the next steps to take to effectively address whatever life situation you are facing.
Eric is a licensed Mental Health Counselor and is currently a Ph.D. candidate in Human Sexuality. He is a practitioner of martial arts, a musician, and lives in New York City with his partner, dog, and bird.
To find out more about Eric and his work, click here.