Experiential Self-Intimacy
Are you ready to learn a proven, powerful, portable process and practice that will help you improve any relational challenge that you encounter?
I was so excited when I wrote this because I can finally say this with complete confidence.
This is not some glib marketing promise. It’s simply a fact.
The experiential self-intimacy process and practice™ is what my clients use in order to transform their relationships.
Look, there are two ways to navigate relationships; A consumerist approach or one that allows you to utilize your relationship as the context for healing and awakening.
The consumerist approach is where you try and figure out what do or what to say in order to GET want you THINK you want because you BELIEVE that it will make you happy. You already know how this turns out, don’t you?
Once you get one thing, there is always something else that you want. So we swing from one want to another want ever seeking and chasing happiness.
This mindset is what most people bring into relationships.
Most people want to be loved, cared for, cherished, appreciated, valued, respected and regarded positively.
But as John Welwood, Ph.D., pointed out, "most seek perfect love from imperfect people!"
In other words, YOU are doomed if you keep seeking from others that which can be abundantly supplied by the one person who is always there 24/7, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. YOU are what you are seeking.
As Rumi said, "what you seek is seeking you!"
Are you ready to stop suffering, stop fighting and finally stop seeking?
Are you ready to live and love freely, openly and authentically?
Then it's time to invest some time and energy into learning this powerful and portable approach!
Stop Suffering
It's time to stop suffering. For many, a relationship is a breeding ground for suffering. It activates historic wounds, pains, hurts and causes you to live in the past burdening your current relationship.
Stop fighting or fleeing
Facing the reality of relationships often causes people to either fight or flee(withdraw and pull away). This cycle creates a relational environment that, over time, becomes toxic and can not bare the the strain.
Stop seeking
Once you learn how to use your innate capacities of love, care, compassion and kindness, turning them towards yourself, seeking drops away and reason and response ability emerges as a new capacity.
"Thank goodness for Eric! Seriously, he has been a lifesaver for me. Especially, his recent work on self-intimacy (or whatever you are calling it). In the past, every time I would get into a relationship, after a while there would be this very specific heaviness that would show up. And I would become miserable. In all these relationships, I was the common denominator. I had no idea how much of my own ancient needs I was basically throwing at the other person, and unconsciously asking them to take care of. I’m seeing it so clearly now. And, more importantly, I’m learning the tools to take care of myself so I don’t toss this needy hot potato at my poor unwilling partner! What I’ve realized is that its not the crappy parenting I had that is the real problem at this point in my life. The really insidious thing is the way I’VE INTERNALIZED that parenting, and how I was treating myself. THIS is the real problem. Eric, has taught me so clearly how to BE with myself in a loving, caring, healing way. How to BE for myself in the exact, precise way I have always yearned for. It’s slowly soothing the hurting, hungry, painfully needy part of myself that has been clamoring loudly for care and attention. I always thought it was my partner’s responsibility to heal that. Turns out that I’M the one I’ve always needed and MY attention is what is truly healing. Learning to be a good friend and parent to myself has been so strangely liberating. I feel like I don’t NEED people quite in the same way, and yet I am so much more able to enjoy them. There is a lightness where there was soo much heaviness. It’s also quite disorienting, as I learn how to walk thru life in a way I have never done before, where I am much more connected to my inner self. I’m so curious to see what unfolds from here. I am SO profoundly grateful. 🙏🏼"
